As children, you learn that the easiest way to avoid pain is to withdraw. As adults you have to learn to define your boundaries. You learn to recognise that which does, and does not serve you. Within your relationships, a lot of personal pain and alienation is caused because the actions of the inner child have not matured. When you are hurt, rather than speaking out and expressing your feelings, many find it easier to hide away.
You may find you spend a few days, or a week, holding grudges against the ones that have hurt you and yet, had you overcome your fear and spoken out, you may have discovered you had misinterpreted the experience altogether. When you are over-protective in this way, this is a marker for you, that you have not learnt to assert yourself.
Asserting yourself needn’t be confrontational. If you find that you are often having to withdraw, I would urge you to recognise and be aware of the need, to define your personal boundaries more clearly. Whether it is in a working environment or a personal one, you have to ensure your own emotional needs are respected and heard.
If you don’t know how to assert yourself, seek help. You are never alone, I will help you, but at the same time, you must be ‘WILLING’ to roll up your sleeves and help me, to help you. You have to do the work, you have to overcome your obstacles. I and my legion of angels will support you.
If you need to become clear about an experience, a pain, any emotional issues, ask yourself where you have failed to be accountable or responsible, how are you ‘choosing’ to react to the situation. Ask yourself what do you need, so you feel that you’re feelings or needs are met. Ask yourself what it is you need to feel safe.
Remember when you place expectations on things outside of yourself, you will fail to find fulfilment. Make a point of addressing important areas in your life. My protection is there to lend you strength, feel my strength and become your own personal warrior.
Remember divine assistance is there, all you need do is ask.
Be of the light